Friday, March 2, 2012

Our Journey To Mei Mei

Our last week home was crazy.  Trying to tie up loose ends, get our taxes filed, complete my term paper etc.  I had wanted to write a post about our Mei Mei and how she came to be ours--so I guess now's the time!

Sweet Mei Mei.

As many of you know, I felt God calling us to adopt two children last year--when we adopted Lan Lan.  As soon as we were matched with Lan Lan, I kept coming across a certain bible verse and felt an absolute certainty that God had two children for us to bring home (which in retrospect, proves, once again, that I have no future as a prophet!).

At that time, in June 2010, China's Special Focus program hadn't yet been instituted.  China still had the ruling of adopting only one child, at one time, unless they were related.  Our agency had the same rule.

And yet . . . I was so certain about two that Hubby agreed to pursue the possibility.  We had our social worker write our homestudy for two.  She probably thought we were strange for this request, because as already stated, it wasn't possible to adopt two at once, and we already knew Lan Lan didn't have a biological sibling. 

Over the course of our adoption of Lan Lan, we inquired about the possibility of adopting two children.  China began the Special Focus program in September, making it a possibility.  We even reviewed the files of several children aging out, but always decided it wasn't meant to be.

It was confusing. 

But, we brought home Lan Lan and immersed ourselves in loving her and teaching her about unconditional love.  It was an exhausting time.  Our hearts and home were full.

And yet . . . so often, especially in the quiet of night, I wondered about that second child from China.   Were we meant to bring another child home?  Was there a missing face at our dinner table?  I couldn't shake the feeling there was.  I had this unrelenting feeling about someone missing. 

And yet . . . Hubby thought our quiver was feeling rather full.  He wasn't saying no.  But he wasn't saying yes.  He did say that if we were going to adopt again, it had to be a child who felt like a perfect match.

Over the course of the next few months we kept talking.  Praying. 

Wondering.  Mostly, it was me doing the talking, praying, and wondering.

We looked at many beautiful faces.  Boys.  Girls.  We narrowed our definition of a child that might fit into our family.  Lan Lan only wanted a sister--she felt surrounded by brothers.  And we knew that if we were to adopt a girl, Lan Lan would do best being the older sister.  And yet we didn't want a child younger than the little boys--our kids are already spread out in age (and strangely, Hubby DOES want to retire someday!). 

Several times we inquired about the possibility of a child fitting the narrow age gap we were requesting.  Fitting the special needs list that we felt comfortable with, especially hoping for a child who might have a hard time finding a home.  But there never seemed to be a match.

And yet . . . someone was missing.

We began updating our homestudy, just in case . . . .

And then one night I clicked on our agency's waiting child page.

And there she was.

I haven't always recognized my children the moment I saw them--true of both birth and adopted children.

But this time?  I can't explain it.  I just knew. 

It was very late at night, so I couldn't share with Hubby until the next day.  Honestly?  I didn't expect him to have the same reaction.  I was really beginning to accept the fact that child #2 was a figment of my imagination.

His reaction? 

Mirrored mine.

Her soul-filled eyes.  And the way the light came down on her hair.  A little girl with several special needs we already had experience with. 

A little girl who had been waiting for a family a very, very long time.

We just knew.  She was our Mei Mei.

Hubby requested her file that very day.  And soon we were matched. 

And now the time has come.  Tomorrow.  Finally.   

Tomorrow is the day we finally meet our Mei Mei! 

"Because you got a double dose of trouble and more than your share of contempt, your inheritance in the land will be doubled and your joy go on forever" (Isaiah 61:7, The Message).


Sally-Girl! said...

Can't wait to see her with you!! Thanks for sharing the story with us. I pray that it is a beautiful moment for Mei Mei and Lan Lan, and mama and baba!!!

YOu guys ROCK!!!

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...


asian~treasures said...

No words necessary. :)

Stevens Family said...

Beautifully written story of your journey to Mei Mei. I can't wait to see her in your arms at last!