Hear that big sigh of relief? That would be me turning in my FIFTEEN PAGE term paper.
I now know more about family systems theory than I ever triangulated through emotional multigenerational thought processes.
Would you like to come over so I can psychoanalyze all your problems and blame them on your lack of differentiation?
No? Okay, good, because I'm kind of ready for some fusion.
I am now officially on Christmas Break!
And I now officially have only FOUR more classes before I graduate! FOREVER!
Of course, I could go for my doctorate.
I will be done. DONE as in done, DONE!
Ready to put my big girl panties on become a real, live social worker.
Cheers! Blog posts of substance coming soon to a blog near you!
Harley is ready to join a loving family of his own.
DOB: February 11, 2007, China
Harley was just a day or two old when he was found abandoned in February of
2007. After a failed attempt to find his family, he was brought into the care of
a local social welfare institute. When he arrived, the caregivers first gave him
a bath, then changed him into “soft and comfortable clothes” before the doctors
began a physical exam – estimating his birthday based on his physical
development. Harley had a coppery brown birthmark on his right cheek, later
diagnosed as Nevus of Ota, as well as a cleft in his lip and palate.
In Chinese culture, many still see birthmarks and clefts as signs of bad
fortune – and discriminate against those who have them. But when Harley arrived
at the orphanage, the caregivers received him as a blessing of hope and joy.
“When he came to this institute, it was a rainy day and it had spring
thunder,” the orphanage staff writes. “We hope he can wake up the sleeping
ground.” Harley brought with him the sense of renewal that comes every year in
spring – and in the arrival of a newborn baby. In recognition, the caregivers
gave him a Chinese name that speaks of spring.
At first, the caregivers struggled to feed Harley
because of the clefts in his lip and palate. Many times a day, they prepared a
formula. Afraid of choking him, they carefully held the bottle to his mouth and
squeezed gently for him to drink. “After feeding him, they will cuddle him and
pat his back lightly,” writes the staff. After 2 months, they gradually added
cereals and fruit and vegetable juices to his diet to balance his nutrition. “He
developed quickly, and his physical condition became stronger.”
On May 22, 2007, 3-month-old Harley underwent an operation for his cleft lip.
In September of 2009, he received surgery to repair his palate and recuperated
in the hospital. Upon returning to the orphanage, the caregivers noticed he was
a little thin so the nutritionist adjusted his diet to help him grow at a
Since that stormy day in spring when a newborn baby arrived at the orphanage,
little Harley has grown into a chatty, energetic 5-year-old boy who loves to
sing, read pictures books and play with toys. He has become very close to his
caregivers as well as the children in the institute – and he continues to grow
healthy and strong. He attends special education classes, where he has learned
to recite poems, to count, to dance, to identify colors and shapes and practice
his pronunciation of words.
At no point in Harley’s short life has he not been truly loved. But although
caregivers do their best to nurture the many children in their care, nothing
compares to the love and attention of a family. Harley is now ready to join an
adoptive family who will love him into the next stage of his life, and every
stage after that – taking over for the orphanage caregivers who five years ago
scooped him up in their arms, dressed him in soft and comfortable clothes, and
lovingly cared for him as best they could.
A family with access to a craniofacial team and an understanding of older
child adoption and institutionalization would be ideal for Harley. Interested
families will need to have their dossier ready to send by November 16.
For more information about Harley, contact Marissa Leuallen at firstname.lastname@example.org or Beth Smith at email@example.com.
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